Here at the Trichotillomania Relief Specialists, Glei and I have noticed that the quality of an individual’s mindset has a powerful impact on how successful they’re likely to be – or not – at conquering his or her challenge with trichotillomania.
The Problem with Trying
Generally speaking, too many individuals tend to qualify their efforts to accomplish a particular goal by telling themselves they’ll “try” to make it happen. For most people, this is done in a completely unconscious attempt to pad their disappointment should failure be the result.
This is never more true than in the case of one’s struggle against trichotillomania-related hair pulling.
If you’re not sure this is true, just ask yourself how many times your well-intended therapist has asked you to change certain of your behavioral patterns in an effort to help facilitate your freedom from pulling. How many times have you said to yourself (if not to him or her), “I’ll try…” – yet knowing in your heart of hearts it probably wasn’t quite going to happen after all?
You see, language is a holder of experience. When you say something like you’ll try to make it happen, that’s exactly what will transpire. Of course, you’ll make an effort, but that’s probably about as far as it will go.
Why? Because your subconscious mind knows the difference between trying and doing. “Trying” only means making an effort to accomplish something; “doing” means actually achieving it.
Don’t Ask If – Ask How
One great way to teach your brain to expect results rather than effort is to ask yourself how you can go about achieving your goal. Notice that this kind of question is open-ended and presupposes success, versus a mere attempt at success.
You may not even have any idea at the time you ask yourself this question how exactly you’ll achieve your goal. But you see, your brain is a little like a Google search engine (what do you think computers were originally modeled after in the first place?). You’ve had many experiences in life, and your brain has absorbed, and thus learned, a lot – way more than you’re consciously aware of at any moment in time.
When you ask yourself “How can I…” questions, it’s like you’re performing a Google search inside your brain. And as long as you patiently await an answer, and as long as you genuinely expect a reasonable answer to come, come to you that answer will (said Yoda to the young Padawan).
How can you use this information to help you more easily conquer your challenges with trichotillomania? That’s what this week’s video is all about.
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