Beating Trichotillomania: Why Commitment Trumps Confidence Every Time

During the many years Glei and I have been working with trichotillomania sufferers, we’ve come across all kind of prospective clients.  Some have been ready to “take the plunge” seemingly right away.  Others need time to “think about it”, or to talk it over with a loved one or significant other.

Upon looking closer at this phenomenon, we discovered that reticence to get started with us right away had less to do with confidence in the quality of our Program, or making sure all the external factors felt right (e.g. sufficient funds, a fully willing participant, etc.).

Instead, it seemed to have more to do with internal factors – most notably one’s level of confidence or certainty that they’re really “ready” – that they have what it takes to be successful in the first place.

Which Comes First – The Chicken Or The Egg?

Far too many people hold back in life for fear they’re not “ready”.  This is never more apparent than when presented with the opportunity to try something new, such as a new coach, or a new therapist – or what may look like an unusually promising trichotillomania relief program.

It’s probably human nature to allow one’s fears of what could go wrong to sneak in at times like that.  The problem is, most people think they need to wait to get started until they feel better – or at least until they might feel at least reasonably certain they can be successful.

Mired in such thought and fears, however, that’s probably the time a prospective client is likely to feel least confident in their ability to succeed.

The Truth Shall Set You Free

Here’s the good new, though:  Confidence or certainty in your ability to succeed has nothing at all to do with your actual ability to do so.  You can free yourself from trichotillomania with or without even the belief that you can.

Know what’s more important?  Your commitment to a change.

Your commitment to living a pull-free lifestyle.  Your commitment to mental, physical and emotional freedom.

When you have that, the rest is easy.

See, commitment trumps confidence every single time.  Commitment to an outcome leads almost invariably to success.  And with success comes the confidence you thought you had to have in the first place.

Interested in learning more about the relationship between commitment and confidence?  Enjoy this week’s video.

Have questions about trichotillomania you’d like us to address in future blog posts?  Visit our Question and Answers Page here.

For more information about how we can assist you to eliminate trichotillomania as an issue in your life far more quickly and easily than you probably ever imagined possible, please visit our website and fill out a contact form.  You can also call our 24-hour toll-free voicemail messaging service at any time of day or night at (866) LIFE-NOW.  We’ll return your call at our very first opportunity.

Your Teen, Trichotillomania, And Why They May Refuse Your Help

We here at the Trichotillomania Relief Specialists speak with a lot of concerned parents of youngsters who suffer with trichotillomania.  Invariably, the parents we speak with are impressed with what we have to say, and are excited indeed at the prospect of what their youngsters have to look forward to.  Many such parents tell us they’d love to get their teen started with us right away.

For some, however, the challenge is that their young one – often a teenager – for whatever reason just doesn’t seem interested in getting outside help.  Seemingly defying any kind of reason, many young people outright refuse it.  Instead, they often firmly stand on their claim that they can take care of it on their own.

More often than not, however, the truth is that young people – not to mention just about anybody with trichotillomania – really have no clue how to effectively resolve the problem on their own.  Thus, if they’re really going to refuse your help, chances are things aren’t going to get better – they’re just going to get worse.

Understanding What Makes Your Teen Tick

This week’s video, “Your Teen, Trichotillomania, And Why They May Refuse Your Help” examines the psychology of young people who despite the obvious challenge they face, just don’t want to talk about it.  Every time you bring it up, they close down, clam up, or maybe run to their room.

Why is this?  What kind of logic could possibly explain this?  Virtually without exception, it’s one thing and one thing only – fear.  Fear of discomfort.  Fear of pain.

Invariably, the pain a youngster anticipates is not (of course) physical pain, but emotional pain.  As the video explains, to our brain, pain is pain – it doesn’t matter the source.  And it’s only natural for us as human beings to do anything we can to avoid it.

But we as adults know better, don’t we?  Not that we always live out this hard-earned wisdom in our own lives – after all, we’re still human as well – but for the most part, adults have learned through bitter experience that merely avoiding difficult situations only makes the situation worse.  Rarely does it get better on its own.

This week’s video offers valuable insights into how you can communicate more effectively with your teen about their challenge with trichotillomania – and most importantly, how to bring them on board with your offer to get them the help they need.

Have questions about trichotillomania you’d like us to address in future blog posts?  Visit our  Question and Answers Page here.

For more information about how we can assist you to eliminate trichotillomania as an issue in your life far more quickly and easily than you probably ever imagined possible, please visit our website and fill out a contact form.  You can also call our 24-hour toll-free voicemail messaging service at any time of day or night at (866) LIFE-NOW.  We’ll return your call at our very first opportunity.