Trichotillomania, Hair-Pulling And The Power of Focus

In our last blog offering, my wife and TRS Co-Founder Glei Mantell came in and did a video with me for the first time.  For those of you who haven’t yet worked with us, this was your first opportunity to meet and get to know her.

The response to that video was so wonderfully positive, we couldn’t wait to do another one for you this week!

Half Empty, Or Half Full?

In life, problems are inevitable.  In fact, it’s impossible to grow and mature without obstacles we take on and conquer.  This proves even more valuable when the challenge was one we didn’t think we could handle, only to eventually find that we could.  What we learn in the process often helps us avoid such challenges in the future.  Our confidence often skyrockets as well.

The way we each tackle problems, however, varies from person to person.  It’s probably fair to say most people spend far too much time reviewing, ruminating on and worrying about the problem, versus taking action to resolve it.

While worry is certainly far from the most productive way of handling life’s inevitable problems, it’s also absolutely normal for us to be doing this.  It’s human nature to want to try to review a problem from every possible angle.  In doing so, we hope to hit on a possible solution – or at least find a way to avoid being hurt by the situation too much.

That said, far too many people are in the habit of laser-beam focusing their attention squarely on the problem without ever getting to serious, directed thinking about a solution – much less an ideal one.

Ever ask questions like these?

  • “Why do I pull so much?”
  • “Why does this always happen to me?”
  • “Why did I have to get trichotillomania?”
  • “What’s going to happen if this doesn’t get fixed?”
  • “Why am I so [fat], [slow], [tired], [undisciplined], [substitute your problem here]?”

The challenge with questions like these is (of course) they cause us to focus on the problem – not the solution.

And wherever we place the focus of our mind, more of that tends to show up in our world.

Energy Flows Where Your Attention Goes

Ever heard that saying?

Here’s another one:  “We become what we think about.”

When it comes to sufferers of trichotillomania, there’s a lesson here.  You already know what the “problem” is.  You pull your hair even though you don’t want to be doing that anymore.  Couldn’t be simpler, right?

So then let’s drop that for now, and instead start thinking about what you want instead.

Why?  Because when you start doing that instead, you’re far more likely to achieve the healing you’ve only dreamed about before now.

Care to learn more?  Enjoy this week’s video here.

Have questions about trichotillomania you’d like us to address in future blog posts?  Visit our website’s Question and Answers Page here.

For more information about how we can assist you to eliminate trichotillomania as an issue in your life far more quickly and easily than you probably ever imagined possible, please visit our website and fill out a contact form.  You can also call our 24-hour toll-free voicemail messaging service at any time of day or night at (866) LIFE-NOW.  We’ll return your call at our very first opportunity.

A Casual Moment with The Trichotillomania Relief Specialists’ Robert & Glei Mantell

As many of you know, we here at the Trichotillomania Relief Specialists recently changed our blog format to feature tools, tips, insight and information in video format, as well as written.  This week’s video captures a casual moment with Robert and Glei.

If you’ve been following our blog, you’ve probably heard us talk about the tremendous value in nurturing balance in our lives – taking breaks, finding time to relax, and enjoying the gift of the moment.  It’s a fun – yet crucial – life lesson that Glei and I enjoy practicing ourselves at every opportunity.

So here we are in this video, Glei and I taking our own break after a long but rewarding day, and sharing a warm, early evening with you.  It’s been a busy week doing what we enjoy most, which is coaching our clients to overcome even the worst, longest-lasting and most “therapy resistant” expressions of trichotillomania.  We thought it would be a great time to take our young son Kyler to the park, and for Glei and I to just sit on a bench and enjoy some time together.

Up until now, it’s just been me (Robert) speaking both for Glei and myself in our blogs, doing my best to help you understand how it’s possible to conquer trichotillomania far more quickly and easily than most imagine possible.  While at the park this week, I just kind of casually invited Glei to join me in our next video blog.  And to my surprise and delight, she immediately said, “Now is a good time!”

While you’ll hear the kids at the park having fun (with our own son’s happy laughter in the background), Glei had the awesome idea to capture this moment totally unscripted, and in doing so, to offer you a window into our thinking on the subject of trichotillomania, and what it’s like doing this work with the wonderful people we meet every day of the week.

We enjoyed it so much, I’m pretty sure MANY of our upcoming videos will be done in very much the same casual fashion.

A Warm Welcome to Glei Mantell

Many of you know my wife and coaching partner Glei from having worked directly with us, either in person or via Skype-based video conferencing.  But for those of you who’ve never met Glei – and until now only have gotten to know me via our earlier videos – we thought this would be a great opportunity to introduce her to our blog audience.

I think you’ll find (as I have) that Glei’s heart is really into her work with the Trichotillomania Relief Specialists.  Having herself experienced challenges with hair pulling when she was young, she understands on very personal level what the struggle is like – and how powerful it can feel to become genuinely, thoroughly Trich-Free.  Glei has the unusual gift of being able to quickly and accurately tune into a person’s deeper level issues and concerns, even when (as is so often the case) those concerns had been totally unconscious for the client him- or herself.

As a result, Glei is able to quickly create trust, rapport and positive responsiveness with our clients. Aligning with our clients both consciously and unconsciously, her skill in helping facilitate relief from trichotillomania is second to none.

If you haven’t already, it’s time to meet her now.

Enjoy!

For more information about how we can assist you to eliminate trichotillomania as an issue in your life far more quickly and easily than you probably ever imagined possible, please visit our website and fill out a contact form.  You can also call our 24-hour toll-free voicemail messaging service at any time of day or night at (866) LIFE-NOW.  We’ll return your call at our very first opportunity.